Often couples who have enjoyed sex over the course of their lives have developed a sexual routine. When sexual excitement begins to wane, it may be a time to reexamine the ritual. You may choose to introduce new techniques or props into your lovemaking ritual to get some of the spark back.
Many couples experiment with a vibrator or adult toy. These once taboo items are now becoming a part of mainstream adult sexuality. They allow partners to relax as they provide intense stimulation. A couple looking to introduce a vibrator should try the Diving Dolphin - a blue vibrator worn by a man but experienced by both partners. If you're looking for something especially for women, try the Rab bit Pearl. This vibrator, featured on Sex and the City, is incredible. It provides intense vaginal and clitoral stimulation. You won't find a better vibe.
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Timing is everything
Years ago, sex may have been difficult to schedule with busy homemaking, children and careers. Many couples would make love before they went to bed because it was simply the only time they had. Now it may be very different. For many older individuals the prospect of having sex just before bedtime is not a popular one. Many people are exhausted and are ready to settle in for a good night's sleep. Sex is not pleasurable when you are not relaxed. Try to find times during the day when you are well rested and alert. Some couples find that the early morning is the best time to make love, after a good night’s sleep. The early afternoon (an hour or two after lunch) may be ideal, perhaps indulging in a bath or shower afterward.
Places for sleep and places for sex
Your bedroom may be where you have to spend some of your most intimate moments. As you get older, your needs change. For some it may no longer be practical for you and your partner to share a double bed. For a partner with health ailments a bed of his/her own is sometimes necessary. If you find that this is a problem that affects your sex life then it may be best to have a larger bed that is for lovemaking and a separate bed for one of you. The addition of an extra bed does not mean that similar closeness during sex cannot continue. Rather, it should be seen as a place to sleep soundly afterward.
