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Tips for Safe and Successful Online Relationships

How to make your Internet-based relationship work in the real world

At Top Dating Tips, we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity to provide you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.

The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. Find a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.

Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?

First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. Here are some tips you may find helpful:

• Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your profile or your emails and messages.
• Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
• Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
• Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
• Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
• Change and edit your profile occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
• Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
• Be polite with messaging, and don't make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
• Please don't feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
• Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
• Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
• Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
• Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
• Always reply quite quickly to any messages.

Little Blue Pills Among the Ways CIA Wins Friends in Afghanistan

For U.S. intelligence officials, Viagra has become a tool to win and fight some crucial battles in Afghanistan.

While the CIA has a long history of buying information with cash, the growing Taliban insurgency has prompted the use of novel incentives and creative bargaining to gain support in some of the country's roughest neighborhoods, according to officials directly involved in such operations.

In their efforts to win over notoriously fickle warlords and chieftains, the officials say, the agency's operatives have used a variety of personal services. Cash and weapons aren't always the best options. Guns too often fall into the wrong hands, they say, and showy gifts such as money, jewelry and cars tend to draw unwanted attention.

For some U.S. operatives in Afghanistan, Western drugs such as Viagra were just part of a long list of enticements available for use in special cases. Two veteran officers familiar with such practices said Viagra was offered rarely, and only to older tribal officials for whom the drug would hold special appeal. While such sexual performance drugs are generally unavailable in the remote areas where the agency's teams operated, they have been sold in some Kabul street markets since at least 2003 and were known by reputation elsewhere.

"You didn't hand it out to younger guys, but it could be a silver bullet to make connections to the older ones," said one retired operative familiar with the drug's use in Afghanistan. Afghan tribal leaders often had four wives -- the maximum number allowed by the Koran -- and aging village patriarchs were easily sold on the utility of a pill that could "put them back in an authoritative position," the official said.

Simple techniques to take the stress out of sex

For many couples one of the limitations of their lovemaking is the health concerns of one or both of the partners. With a little bit of creativity in the bedroom most of these concerns can be overcome. You must examine your preconceptions about what lovemaking is. As we age, lovemaking may become a more intimate experience with a new emphasis placed on hugging, kissing and most importantly, communication.

Sex after a heart attack or other illness may require you to abstain from sex and all activities which cause exertion for some time. Always ask your doctor when it is safe to return to lovemaking. He or she may suggest that you practice less strenuous positions, and reduce the overall level of physical strain during intercourse. Tiredness and fatigue during sex may also cause interruptions in love making. The following are a few tips to help you make sex less stressful.

Atmosphere

A relaxing and calm atmosphere is a good way to relieve anxiety and stress. You may wish to create a serene mood with relaxing music and dimmed lights. If it is a room that has been used to nurse or care for an ill partner, move to a different room or change the décor slightly. A different environment can also help to break the routine and add a welcome twist to lovemaking.

Temperature

Make sure that the temperature is agreeable to each of you to increase the level of relaxation. A slightly cooler room may be more comfortable when things begin to heat up.

Taking it slow

A slow and steady arousal is a good way to ease into relaxing sex. Spend a great deal of time laying and talking, touching and caressing. You and your partner may wish to exchange sensual massages. Many books have been written on the subject. A massage is the perfect way to both arouse and relax at the same time.

Change positions

Find positions which do not cause a great deal of strain to maintain a low level of physical exertion. The partner suffering the heart ailment should be encouraged to lay down. This may require the other partner to be on top, in a superior position, or both partners can lay on their sides. Perhaps the most comfortable and relaxing position of all is the T position. The woman lays flat on her back while the man lays perpendicular to her, facing her on his side. He straddles her leg furthest from him and enters her softly. This position not only reduces stress, it allows the couple to see one another.

Talk to your doctor

Most importantly, follow the instructions given to you by your physician. If he or she has not specifically discussed the issue with you, don’t hesitate to ask. Any potential discomfort in talking about the issue is well worth the advice your doctor can provide.

Women online dating tips

Women who use on-line dating sites will typically receive many messages from both men and women.

They receive more incoming mail than men because usually dating sites have more males which are hunting for best looking profiles. So the question what to write in first dating message or letter is very important. For some replying to first message/letter is funny process but for some it is a real problem. So, how do you write your first dating message;

1. Show respect. If you are answering to email, first, write what you have been pleased to receive his message. Just show your respect to him and his time.

2. Write briefly about your dating objectivesand let him know that you are looking for a seriouss relationship and want to create a family (if you really want that).  Above all tell the truth its important to be lead on or lead any one on.

Then reply to any questions he stated in his letter.

3. If the man did not attach photo, ask him to send photo with his next message or letter.

4. Do not write in the first message/letters about your town, ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands. At this stage it is more important to find out his views on family life, his attitude to relationship between a man and a woman, what values does he have in a relationship, what does not accept in ideal partner

5. In the first message/letter do not ask many questions. It is better to ask 1-3 questions in each letter. Here are the examples of questions you may ask in a first message:

• What is he looking for?
• What would he like to know about you?
• Does he have children, how many and what age they are, with whom they are living?
• Does he drink?
• Does he have own house or rent it?
• How long hashe used on-line dating sites?
• If you live in different countries ask him why he is looking for dating partner from you country.  Which countries has he visited?
• What does he like to do on holiday?

6. With each message, send 1-2 pictures. But it is recommended to avoid explicit photos in bikini in your first message, unless you want to get down to the "action" very quickly.

Dating messages and letters are very different: some of them are the detailed and you may need to spend 10-15 minutes to read it, others quite short (like "if you are interested, write me"). Of course usually woman are primarily interested in long messages or letters but really my advice is to stop ignoring short letters. Some people cannott write about themselves to an unknown person, they first need a question to start a conversation.

What would you like to read in a message?

How do you like to be reached?

To thrust or not to thrust

More thrusting does not necessarily mean more fun. Many couples enjoy insertion and then a simple rocking back and forth. This can be extremely satisfying because it allows both partners to relax with one another. Other couples enjoy shallow thrusting because it provides a great deal of mutual stimulation. Whatever you prefer, remember that the most sensitive nerve endings in the vagina are near the opening, and therefore constant stimulation of that area can be gratifying.

For the male, shallow penetration allows constant stimulation of the head of the penis and specifically the frenulum which are both squeezed by the vaginal muscles located near the vaginal opening. If you do not know what type of thrusting your partner likes you can exchange positions. One partner can be on top and dictate the rhythm of penetration and then after a while exchange positions. This is a way to mutually determine what sort of rhythm you will have during vaginal intercourse.

Thrusting is made more enjoyable with lubricant. Sometimes a woman does not produce a sufficient amount of natural lubrication on her own, and lubrication on both the vagina and penis are helpful for better sex. Prolonged sex can also deplete natural lubrication, and creams or oils can be applied at intervals along the way.

A Helping Hand

One great new innovation that can help to improve sex for both men and women in any position is ID Pleasure, a high-market lubricant containing L-Arginine. L-Arginine is a non-essential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to enhance sexual arousal in women and also has been found to increase stimulation for men. When ID Pleasure is applied to the clitoris and vaginal walls for lubrication the L-Arginine will increase the blood flow to the region, heightening sensitivity. Heightened sensitivity, in turn, naturally results in a greater responsiveness to sexual stimulation. When applied to the penis, it increases the blood flow to the penis and helps to create a stronger erection and additional stimulation.

Airplane sex guide

Airplane Sex Guide For your own safety and comfort and that of your fellow passengers and crew, please observe the following regulations when engaging in in-flight sex.
Sex While Seated Regulations require that you keep your seatbelts fastened at all times when seated. Therefore, only oral and manual sex are permitted in the main cabin. If you desire privacy, you may request a blanket to conceal your activities.
Autofellatio This option is always available to our passengers who prefer to self-suck. To avoid head injuries, make sure your tray table is secured in its upright and locked position.	Hand Job To initiate a hand job, unzip the fly of the passenger seated immediately next to you, freeing his penis. Grasping the shaft firmly, use a brisk up-and-down motion until climax is achieved. Flight attendants may provide moist towelettes for cleanup. Hot towels are available to our first-class passengers.
Blow Job
To initiate a blow job, unzip the fly of the passenger seated immediately next to you, freeing his penis. Rotate your torso 90 degrees and flex at the waist until your mouth contacts the recipient’s hard on. Move head up and down as indicated.Passengers who are unable or prefer not to swallow may use the paper receptacle bags located in the forward seat pocket. After use, give the bag to a flight attendant for disposal.
Sex in the Lavatories For the comfort and consideration of all passengers, we request that couples limit their sessions to 15 minutes or less, whether or not climax is achieved. Please engage the "Having Sex" sign on the lavatory door so that you will not be disturbed.   To facilitate sex in the close quarters of an airline lavatory, may we suggest the following positions. Due to the size of the facilities, threesomes are prohibited. Seated sex positions are recommended if the airplane encounters turbulence. We must remind you that smoking after sex or tampering with a lavatory smoke detector are federal offenses.
Blow Job (Sitting) If emergency fecal evacuation is required, this position may be used for performing a blumpkin maneuver. In this case, be sure the commode lid is OPEN.	Blow Job (Standing) If you do not swallow, please spit into the commode, or alternately, the sink.
Cunnilingus To avoid being overwhelmed by a foul odor, be sure   that the commode lid is shut before your female partner is seated. If the commode is    closed and you are still overwhelmed by a foul    odor during cunnilingus, we suggest your partner review basic hygiene procedures. Unfortunately,   due to space considerations, an in-flight bidet is  not available.	Fingering (Seated) After inserting a hand into your partner’s panties, digitally stimulate her clitoris using up-and-down, side-to-side, or circular motions. If you cannot locate the clitoris, refer to the detailed diagram on the other side of this card.
Intercourse - Doggy-Style Against Sink Save time by using this position to wash your hands or fix your makeup while having sex.	Intercourse – Sitting on Sink Avoid activating the faucet in this position or you’ll end up with an extra large wet spot.
Intercourse – Sitting on Commode To maintain the aircraft's equilibrium, we ask that passengers refrain from riding the baloney pony too vigorously during flight. Intercourse – Standing Against Commode If you prop one foot on the toilet, make sure the lid is closed. Failure to do so may result in a sprained ankle or accidental loss of footwear. Thanks to sextutor.com for these special tips.