For many couples one of the limitations of their lovemaking is the health concerns of one or both of the partners. With a little bit of creativity in the bedroom most of these concerns can be overcome. You must examine your preconceptions about what lovemaking is. As we age, lovemaking may become a more intimate experience with a new emphasis placed on hugging, kissing and most importantly, communication.
Sex after a heart attack or other illness may require you to abstain from sex and all activities which cause exertion for some time. Always ask your doctor when it is safe to return to lovemaking. He or she may suggest that you practice less strenuous positions, and reduce the overall level of physical strain during intercourse. Tiredness and fatigue during sex may also cause interruptions in love making. The following are a few tips to help you make sex less stressful.
Atmosphere
A relaxing and calm atmosphere is a good way to relieve anxiety and stress. You may wish to create a serene mood with relaxing music and dimmed lights. If it is a room that has been used to nurse or care for an ill partner, move to a different room or change the décor slightly. A different environment can also help to break the routine and add a welcome twist to lovemaking.
Temperature
Make sure that the temperature is agreeable to each of you to increase the level of relaxation. A slightly cooler room may be more comfortable when things begin to heat up.
Taking it slow
A slow and steady arousal is a good way to ease into relaxing sex. Spend a great deal of time laying and talking, touching and caressing. You and your partner may wish to exchange sensual massages. Many books have been written on the subject. A massage is the perfect way to both arouse and relax at the same time.
Change positions
Find positions which do not cause a great deal of strain to maintain a low level of physical exertion. The partner suffering the heart ailment should be encouraged to lay down. This may require the other partner to be on top, in a superior position, or both partners can lay on their sides. Perhaps the most comfortable and relaxing position of all is the T position. The woman lays flat on her back while the man lays perpendicular to her, facing her on his side. He straddles her leg furthest from him and enters her softly. This position not only reduces stress, it allows the couple to see one another.
Talk to your doctor
Most importantly, follow the instructions given to you by your physician. If he or she has not specifically discussed the issue with you, don’t hesitate to ask. Any potential discomfort in talking about the issue is well worth the advice your doctor can provide.
