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Four Positions For A Better Female Orgasm

Of course you want a steamier sex life -- but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary

You've probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they can't achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He'll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.

Mouth and Finger, Yum!

Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you -- walk him through the following exercise:

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Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.

Face to Face on a Stool

A tall kitchen stool is perfect for communicating and slowly working up to soulful eye-to-eye communication. If you are used to closing your eyes and burying your head in the pillow, you'll find that in this position you are more present and equal. No one's weight is on anyone, you are facing each other (he's standing and you're sitting). You can look down at his penis, and he can get valuable feedback about the types of strokes he is delivering when he sees your face and hears your delighted sounds.

Because this position provides intense stimulation to the G-spot and a clear, direct way to communicate, this is the best position for both of you to learn how to awaken and stimulate your G-spot. Your clitoris can also be easily stimulated.

This position is excellent for deep penetration -- if the stool is sturdy -- and for exploring how deep, penetrating thrusts can trigger the sensations of a uterine orgasm (different than a vaginal orgasm, but equally enjoyable). It's likely that at first you may not have an orgasm and you may not ejaculate, but it's worth it to explore a uterine orgasm.

Standing up from Behind

This position borrows certain elements of the popular "doggy-style" position, where the woman is on her hands and knees and is entered from behind. But if you try standing up, slightly bent forward, you'll find more pressure on the G-spot than with the traditional doggy-style position. Your partner's movements will push forward against your G-spot, and that's exactly what you want for good stimulation.

In all these sexual positions, it is important to have your G-spot aroused before he enters. Expressing your delight in your growing sensitivity and arousal is the best way to communicate with him. If he hears, "Oh, oh, my gosh! Oh, that is so sensitive!" he will slow down, but stay aroused and excited. If you say, "I need you to slow down," especially in a nonerotic voice, he may feel he is being dictated to or worry that he is not pleasing you. His fun and confidence will be affected and he may lose his erection. G-spot sensitivity, G-spot orgasms and ejaculating freely will not happen overnight. He'll learn a few things, and you'll give up a few things while you wait for him to catch up. Let him know when he really hits the target. It's helpful to say to your partner, "Oh, oh, oh, please remember that spot!" That gets the message across in an exciting way.

Don't expect him always to remember, but do expect him to catch on after a while. The great thing about all these positions -- and more generally about learning to awaken your G-spot -- is the gradualness with which this can occur. Unlike learning to have an orgasm, which often leads people to stick to one method, variety in how you experience pleasure and orgasm will increase as you slowly incorporate your G-spot awakening into what you already do.

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Sex and Hooded Men - Good Clean fun

It’s a question that arises sooner or later. And while the answers depend entirely on personal preference, the health aspects are up for debate. It’s a question of trauma and pain versus hygiene and pleasure.

Do women prefer uncircumcised men or circumcised ones? It’s a question that’s more relevant now than 20 years ago, when around 90% of boys in the Western world were circumcised. Since then there’s been a movement to halt a practice that’s increasingly regarded as medically unnecessary and cruel.

Today only around 60% of boys are circumcised for reasons other than religion. But what are the affects on sex of being snipped or unsnipped? Firstly, it’s been said that the hood of the penis is more sensitive to stimulation if it remains covered by the penile hood.

But there’s also a drawback to being uncircumcised. Men with intact foreskins must take care to move it up and down and clean inside the covered areas. Neglecting to do so will lead to a build-up of smelly material that can cause nasty infections after lovemaking.

Slipping up works nicely
Secondly, some women prefer a circumcised penis, as it slides up and down more easily in the vagina, providing more pleasure for both partners.

There’s also the matter of safe sex: men with foreskins can have difficulty keeping a condom on during full intercourse. Like a dirty penis, this can cause anxiety - a really passion killer.

But with condom that fits properly, proper washing and good lubrication the problem should be alleviated.

Circumcision itself is no happy event – it’s bloody, painful and traumatic. There’s been a concerted effort recent years to discourage parents from circumcising their infant boys. Written accounts of the procedure are harrowing.

Whether you choose to circumcise your kids is up to you. When push comes to shove, there are advantages and disadvantages to having the snip. If you’re a hooded man, pay obsessively close attention to your hygiene. If you aren’t, enjoy your evening. - (William Smook)

Many thanks to William Smook for this article and health24

How to hint your partner to do better in bed

Silence is a an enemy of every sexual relationships, but what if your partner is not doing it right for you in bed and you don't want to hurt his/her feelings. Does it mean that you should tell your partner about your dissatisfaction or better keep it a secret? I would say that it's better to open up than let your relationships die. Your partner won't know what you dislike, unless you tell about it, but what is really important - how you tell this.

Give your partner the initiative

Do you feel like you are the only one who is making all the efforts in bed? If your partner is completely unresponsive and doesn't want to give you a feedback, this can be a right time to change the situation.

First of all if you notice that your partner is motionless and tense, ask her or him what bothers him/her and what are your partner's thoughts and feelings. If he/she is worried about something talk about it. If your partner is nothing but relaxed and unwilling to reciprocate, you may focus her/his attention on your needs by placing your partner's hands where you want or gently whisper your desires in her/his ears. The other way to make your partner more active is to change positions so that your partner would inevitably take the initiative.

Explain your needs

You dislike the way he or she is kissing you but you do not want to criticize your partner? There is no need to tell about your dissatisfaction directly. The way you tell your partner about your needs plays a significant role for your partner's reaction. Try to avoid concentrating on your needs only when you explain what you need. This may cause a defensive reaction and lead to a conflict. It is better to focus on mutual satisfaction, asking her/his opinion and making your partner the one to decide how to make you both feel better.

It is even more recommended to explain your partner the benefits of the experience you both want. Do not make your requests one-sided and try to be more giving.

Guide your partner physically and verbally

If something seems uncomfortable to you during sex, the best thing to do is to change the situation by gently guiding your partner with his/her hands. Grasp his/her hips to help your partner do the movements you like. You may start with caressing your partner gently before you place his/her hands where you want them to be.

Encourage your partner with moans, groans and some words.
Appreciate your partner's efforts by letting her/him know that you liked the most. This will make your partner more confident and more willing to make you both feel good.

Create the right mood

Your sexual interaction should not be all serious and tense. The more relaxing you both feel, the more chances are for you to find common language with your partner. Engage in role-playing or simply discuss your fantasies and desires so that both can enjoy good time and explain what you need in a fun manner. This is a good way to touch the topic in a relaxing atmosphere without hurting your partner.

Multiple Sex Partners Versus One

Sexologists say that most women and men lie about their previous sexual experiences, underestimating (for women) or overestimating (for men) the number of sex partners. Making the secret of your past can be quite understandable as people tend to make certain conclusions based on sexual behavior. But why men tend to boast about the multiple partners they had and women try to hide the real number of partners?

Indeed, does number of partners tell about your skillfulness in bed? Most probably not. Most experts agree that most satisfying sex is among long-term partners. There are several reasons for that:

• Frequency of sex

Couples that live together, have higher frequency of sex, that benefits both partners, keep them fit and more confident. However, there is always a possibility that regular sex may turn into monotonous sex when sexual excitement fades with the time. But if both partners are willing to do some changes in their repertoire, their experience becomes really precious.
For those who do not have stable relationships, sex life usually undergoes ups and downs with times when sexual passion is on the rise followed by uncertainty and overall lack of sex.

• Sexual satisfaction

Long-term relationships that are based on trust and open communication contribute to better understanding bed. Partners can discuss their sexual likes and dislikes, improve their sex life and with the time get almost in tune with each other sexually. That helps women and men derive maximum pleasure from their experience.
Partners who do not know each other quite well may often feel awkward when it comes to one's preferences in bed. On the one hand lack of knowledge brings more exploration in sexual area, on the other hand, both partners do not feel intimate enough to openly say what was right or wrong.

• Sexual health

There is no need to say that partners who committed to each other and got to know each other's sexual history are more confident when it comes to their sexual health. Again, open communication is the key and knowing that your health will also affect your partner's health makes you more responsible. Partners in long-term relationships often have better understanding on the methods of contraception and decide what is best for them.
Having multiple partners, makes you feel less secure in these issues, especially if you just started having sex together.

• Sex experiments

Someone may say that more partners equals to more variety in sex life. This is not true, if we talk about stable relationships where partners are used to share their feelings and ideas together. On the contrary, long-term partners feel comfortable to discuss their fantasies and are open to experimentation, which brings them even closer to each other. You can always explore the whole variety of sexual experience with one partner – it is just takes more efforts than changing partners frequently. And you are more willing to try new things with a partner who won't say that there is something wrong with you.

            many thanks to real sex tips for these points

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Tips for better love making

If you're floundering in the bedroom and your girlfriend is moaning for all the wrong reasons, these tips will point you in the right direction.

Gentlemen! If you want to get your girl moaning for real instead of faking it, you're going to have to put a bit of work in. Firstly, a male can achieve orgasm within 2 - 3 minutes when stimulated by another partner. Where as a female can take up to 15 minutes to climax.

If you know for a fact that you can't keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone (and lets face it, if you're doing that, you're having sex, not making love) then you are going to have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead.

Now before you panic and freak out, all of this can be done with your tongue and hands. I guarantee you will become a better lover in the bedroom AND you really will give her orgasm after orgasm.

The top 5 female erogenous zones

The neck

Apart from being sexy and attractive, the female neck is perhaps one of the most sensitive areas of her body. Softly kissing this area from her shoulder to below her ear (while at the same time massaging it with your tongue will send tingles and pulses up and down her spine. Keep at it and she will be breathing heavily in a very short period of time.

The ear lobes

Sucking ear lobes isn't for everyone. Some girls get the tickles when you do it but others simply adore it. While you're there you can whisper sweet nothings in her ear. Close facial contact is what she likes so this is a good way to do it if you're fed up with kissing on the lips. Also massaging her ear lobes with your fingers from time to time can be very soothing.

The nipples

On a par with the neck for sensitivity, the female nipples become hard and sit up right when stimulated with your tongue. Don't forget to give both breasts even attention and also kiss down in between her breasts as you work your way between both of them. If she hasn't grabbed your head by this stage and held it into her bosom, something's badly wrong.

The belly button

Working your way down her body, the belly button is another area you should stimulate before full intercourse. Kissing this area with your lips and tongue will cause vibrations that will vibrate through her reproductive area and begin to stimulate her G spot.

The G Spot

Ah the G spot. This holy grail legend of the female anatomy can be tricky to find. So if the chance arises, ask her if she has already found her G spot and let her point you in the right direction.

As a general guide, most female G spots can be found on the roof of the vagina (that's the side closest to her stomach.). It's about the size and shape of a 2 pence coin and can be found about 4 inches in.

Extreme caution should be taken when stimulating this area with your tongue or fingers as a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don't be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy. It should also be noted that not all females have a G spot, so don't be alarmed if you both can't find it. As you have seen there are plenty of other areas of the female body that can be stimulated in the art of love making in order to help her climax.

Doing a combination of all these things will leave her begging for more and you will be a better lover for it. Experimentation is the key to find out what works and what doesn't as everyone is not the same.

As you can see, a true female orgasm involves the stimulation of her whole body and not just simple penetration. Taking the time to show care and attention to her needs will put you so far above any other lovers, she may have had that you may find it tricky escaping from the bed. I know I have ;-)

I hope this article helps your love life get back on track and that you become better and more confident at making love and not just having sex. Above all else, if you want to become a better lover, ask your partner what they like and what they want you to do to them. Not only will you help them get their rocks off quicker, you'll also show that you are thinking about their needs and they in turn will think about yours. This will create a much better experience than if both parties are concentrating on what each can get out of the experience in a very selfish way.

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Short note about the author

Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's checking out new dating sites that appear on the net.

Bootyful View

 

Erotic Instructions:

Have your man sit up on the bed so that his legs are extended horizontally toward the foot of the bed. Turn around and straddle him — with your back toward him — and then lower yourself onto his erect penis. Extend your legs back so they are almost behind him, relaxing your torso onto the bed between his feet. Slide up and down and use his feet for leverage.

 

Why You'll Love It:

This position allows for great control over speed, depth, and intensity of stimulation. Since you’re facing away, you can feel totally uninhibited, and your partner can enjoy the thrill of the ride.

 

Many thanks to Cosmopolitan for this, read more at

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/bootyful-view-sex-position

The Lusty Lean

 

Erotic Instructions:

Your sweetie stands facing you as you squat on a bed or chair with your back to him. Lean on his chest as he steadies you by placing his hands under your rear. He then enters you from behind.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Leaning back on his chest with his biceps bracing your weight, you'll feel totally taken care of — and he'll feel more studly than a first-string stallion. Plus, this position gives him deep access combined with more of a grinding motion than the usual from-behind fast thrusting.

 

Many thanks to cosmopolitan for this. read more at

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/the-lusty-lean-sex-position