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Caligula director Tinto Brass plans 'first 3D porn'

Caligula director Tinto Brass, has announced plans to make the world's first 3D pornographic film, according to the Hollywood Reporter.

Brass plans to "revisit an abandoned project about a Roman emperor that was ruined by Americans", suggesting that the film will be a remake of Caligula.

The 1979 film, starring Helen Mirren, was a collaboration between Brass and the Penthouse publisher Bob Guccione.

Critically panned, it also starred the late John Gielgud and Peter O'Toole.

US author Gore Vidal, who wrote the original script, was so keen to distance himself from the infamous film, that he took legal action and had his name removed from the project.

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Four Positions For A Better Female Orgasm

Of course you want a steamier sex life -- but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary

You've probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they can't achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He'll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.

Mouth and Finger, Yum!

Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you -- walk him through the following exercise:

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Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.

Face to Face on a Stool

A tall kitchen stool is perfect for communicating and slowly working up to soulful eye-to-eye communication. If you are used to closing your eyes and burying your head in the pillow, you'll find that in this position you are more present and equal. No one's weight is on anyone, you are facing each other (he's standing and you're sitting). You can look down at his penis, and he can get valuable feedback about the types of strokes he is delivering when he sees your face and hears your delighted sounds.

Because this position provides intense stimulation to the G-spot and a clear, direct way to communicate, this is the best position for both of you to learn how to awaken and stimulate your G-spot. Your clitoris can also be easily stimulated.

This position is excellent for deep penetration -- if the stool is sturdy -- and for exploring how deep, penetrating thrusts can trigger the sensations of a uterine orgasm (different than a vaginal orgasm, but equally enjoyable). It's likely that at first you may not have an orgasm and you may not ejaculate, but it's worth it to explore a uterine orgasm.

Standing up from Behind

This position borrows certain elements of the popular "doggy-style" position, where the woman is on her hands and knees and is entered from behind. But if you try standing up, slightly bent forward, you'll find more pressure on the G-spot than with the traditional doggy-style position. Your partner's movements will push forward against your G-spot, and that's exactly what you want for good stimulation.

In all these sexual positions, it is important to have your G-spot aroused before he enters. Expressing your delight in your growing sensitivity and arousal is the best way to communicate with him. If he hears, "Oh, oh, my gosh! Oh, that is so sensitive!" he will slow down, but stay aroused and excited. If you say, "I need you to slow down," especially in a nonerotic voice, he may feel he is being dictated to or worry that he is not pleasing you. His fun and confidence will be affected and he may lose his erection. G-spot sensitivity, G-spot orgasms and ejaculating freely will not happen overnight. He'll learn a few things, and you'll give up a few things while you wait for him to catch up. Let him know when he really hits the target. It's helpful to say to your partner, "Oh, oh, oh, please remember that spot!" That gets the message across in an exciting way.

Don't expect him always to remember, but do expect him to catch on after a while. The great thing about all these positions -- and more generally about learning to awaken your G-spot -- is the gradualness with which this can occur. Unlike learning to have an orgasm, which often leads people to stick to one method, variety in how you experience pleasure and orgasm will increase as you slowly incorporate your G-spot awakening into what you already do.

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The Lusty Lean

 

Erotic Instructions:

Your sweetie stands facing you as you squat on a bed or chair with your back to him. Lean on his chest as he steadies you by placing his hands under your rear. He then enters you from behind.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Leaning back on his chest with his biceps bracing your weight, you'll feel totally taken care of — and he'll feel more studly than a first-string stallion. Plus, this position gives him deep access combined with more of a grinding motion than the usual from-behind fast thrusting.

 

Many thanks to cosmopolitan for this. read more at

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/the-lusty-lean-sex-position

Sexual Position To Try - G-Spot Jiggy

Erotic Instructions:

Get down on all fours with your man kneeling behind you and have him plunge inside you, grabbing your rear for balance. A little firm, well-placed stroking of your G-spot can open up a whole new orgasmic world. If he’s the exploring kind, encourage him to thrust far enough inside you so that his testicles hit your body.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Once you have a G-spot orgasm, you’ll crave more. Also, there’s something very primal about doing the deed from behind that brings out the animal in even the most mild-mannered guy.

 

HINT :

If the doggy-style pose doesn’t make you hot enough, accessorize! Using a vibrator will definitely amp up the action. Plus, bringing a toy between the sheets could take your relationship to a whole new level since a touch of taboo is always a turn-on

 

Many thanks to Cosmopolitan for this

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/g-spot-jiggy-sex-position

Positions women like

Here comes that generalisation again, and with it the knowledge that at least one reader will say, "But I'm not like that". Okay, let's say that many - not all - women enjoy these lovemaking positions.

Call us indulgent, but most men enjoy seeing their partners having an orgasm. Here are a few of the positions many women find gives them the most pleasure, along with some tips for men on maximising the enjoyment for both of you.

 

Astride

You lie on your back, perhaps with a pillow under your bottom. Once she's on top of you and you're inside her, you can tilt your pelvis forward a bit, which allows her to grind hers more directly against it. Many women find this a reliable way of having a clitoral orgasm, especially if they lie on top of you. She may prefer you to lie still and let her control the rhythm of her movement. Don't worry - it'll be pleasant for you too.

 

Your partner may also prefer to remain erect, resting her weight on her hands while moving rhythmically up and done. This enables her to move her G-spot against the head or shaft of your penis.

 

This position can be hugely enjoyable position for both of you. Your partner may heighten the sensation for both of you by squeezing her kegel muscles. Exotic sex manuals talk about women turning around while astride the man, but feats like these have more value as a novelty than heightened pleasure. Try it, but don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out. There are plenty of other options.

 

The intimate missionary

It's a much-maligned position, but many women love it. It allows full-length, skin-to-skin touching and eye contact. Try putting your arms around your partner and holding her close to you. You can also hold yourself up on your arms and move inside her, very slowly and rhythmically, rather than frantic rodeo-type thrusting. Try putting a pillow under her bottom.

 

Making a stand

For this you'll need a very sturdy surface, at about waist height. If it's a cold, hard or rough surface, your partner will appreciate a towel between it and her bottom. Some men go on about the value of a rumbling, vibrating tumble-drier to add extra sensation. If you're comfortable with your partner calling out the name of the manufacturer while in the throes of passion, switch on the machine.

 

The reason so many women like this position is that it allows contact with the G-spot. Some women find it the only position in which they can ejaculate, often a highly erotic experience for both partners. She should probably be fully aroused before you enter her, as you'll be penetrating her deeply.

 

Depending on where you do this - a fallen tree in the middle of the Okavango, against a lifeboat on a cruise liner, under a full moon in Venice - there'll also be an element of danger or intrigue. So this isn't the time for lingering, all-night intimacy, but rather the cut-to-the-action sort. Gauge your partner's mood right and your have a recipe for brief, explosive sex. It’s no replacement for the lingering, romantic sort, just a whizz-bang alternative.

 

Spoons in the sack

This is a slow, intimate position that can feel enormously erotic. Your partner lies on her side and you nestle in her back, letting you guide your penis inside her. There's no eye contact unless you have a strategically placed mirror (Not a bad idea if your partner fancies it), but it does allow you to rub and stroke her body and to kiss, lick and nuzzle her neck, back and ears. And of course, you can give her a running commentary on how good she makes you feel.

 

Stoop lively now

Not all women are wild about “doggy style” as it can seem a bit impersonal, but if the mood is right and she's confident that you're not fantasising about her sister it can be very exciting. You can do this standing, kneeling or lying down. For the latter you can put a pillow under her pelvis, and enter her vagina from behind, resting your weight on your hands.

 

Standing or kneeling affords the deepest penetration, and you can hold your partner's hips in your hands and control your thrusting with her pelvic movements and yours. – thankyou to health 24 for these tips

How to share a lover

Sometimes it happens by design, sometimes it’s unplanned. Sometimes, just maybe, it’s one of those accidents of fate drawing us on into the unknown, on a journey towards greater self-knowledge, greater integration and vastly expanded possibilities. Including more people in your love life will lead to an exponential increase in whatever is at the core of your attraction.

 

First, leave your preconceived expectations and judgements at the gate. That goes for excessive concern about what others will think, too. Learn to discriminate between form and substance. Happiness in a relationship comes from a shared experience of love, not from an external appearance or image of perfect coupledom. Ask yourself: how do I feel in this relationship? Trust your gut. If you have an inner certainty that you are engaged in a loving and joyous union, chances are your partners will agree with you. If you have doubts, check them out with an open-minded friend or unbiased therapist.

Second, do not tolerate deception, secrecy or lies. This doesn’t mean you have to broadcast the most intimate details of your love to the world at large, but cheating hurts everyone involved. Many people embark on multiple relationships without consulting their spouses or lovers because of their own guilt, jealousy or fear of rejection. In order to reap the benefits, it’s essential that all parties have a clear and accurate understanding of what’s going on.

If you or your lovers won’t risk telling the truth to all of your partners, do everybody a favour and stick to monogamy. It is best for your lovers to know and trust each other; that is, to have their own relationship, independent of you. It’s also a good idea for all of you to spend some time together. If your lover refuses to participate in efforts at joint communication, try to identify the underlying obstacles. If there’s no willingness to grow here, beware.

Third, clarify your own values and goals in life. Be consistent and communicate these to others. Don’t mislead potential lovers by changing your intentions with your moods. If it’s a priority for you to keep your life simple, predictable and uncomplicated, you probably won’t be motivated to commit the necessary time and energy to maintain inclusive relationships. More than one lover doesn’t have to mean an endless marathon encounter, but it does require sensitivity, self-awareness, empathy and clear communication. If you don’t already have these skills, you will have to develop them. Involvement in more than one intimate relationship tends to accelerate the process of personal growth and to intensify external activities.

Seek out others who share your wants, needs and dreams. Don’t try to force a round peg into a square hole. Make a list of the costs and benefits of your preferred relationship structure. Visualise it as you would like it to be. Ask yourself: how must I change in order for what I want to become a reality?

What about HIV/AIDS?

Many people these days are fearful of choosing a polyamorous love style because of concerns about exposing themselves to HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

If fear of disease is the only factor motivating your choice of love style, consider this. A closed circle, whether of two or six or twenty healthy, trusted partners can make polyamory just as “safe” as monogamy; perhaps even more so since the couple who have sworn to be monogamous may be more likely to lie about outside affairs and less likely to frankly discuss their sexual histories with prospective lovers than those who are openly polyamorous.

A safe sex circle or condom commitment can be entered into by a number of partners who first take appropriate steps to see that they are free of communicable diseases, and then agree not to have unsafe sex outside the group or engage in other high risk behaviours such as intravenous drug use. Each group will have to define what specific behaviours fall into the category of unprotected sex. If anyone slips up they report this to the group and are then quarantined until they can renew their clean bill of health.

Of course, it’s also possible to share sexual energy without penetration or exchanging bodily fluids, and this is also a good alternative to fear-based monogamy.

The bottom line is that creating a healthy body, mind and spirit will offer you more real protection than relying on one or more partners who may make promises they fail to keep. A highly functional immune system, a sex-positive attitude and your own ability to discern when and with whom it’s appropriate to engage with sexually offer you the security you need to love freely in our modern world. Exercise good judgment, but don’t let exaggerated fears keep you from listening to your heart.

Condom commitment:

An agreement to confine exchange of bodily fluids and barrier-free intercourse to a closed group which has previously been screened for STIs.

So the bottom line is: If you are going to do it, do it responsibly.

Sunday Sex Tip

Hit the spot!

Missionary position? Nah, overdone. Try our selection of handy configurations of carnal knowledge. All you need is a consenting partner and a sense of adventure.

 There’s one big benefit to the positions we’ve chosen: they hit the spot for women. We’ve rated each one’s do-ability as easy, moderate or tricky and the results as sighs, moans or OH-YES, along with instructions on making it work.

 

A little inversion

You’ll need a low bed, futon or couch for this one, and some cushions or pillows on the floor so she won’t hurt he head.

How: She lies on her back on the bed, then slides off the side so that her head, shoulders and upper back are over the edge and resting on the cushions. You move in and penetrate her, bracing yourself on the edge of the bed or whatever other furniture is available.

Why it works: the position stretches her belly, pulling the lips of her vagina so that your penis makes good contact with her clitoris. And her breasts will be close to your face, which is always nice.

Do-ability: tricky.

Results: moans.

 

End-on

Two pillows and a bed are all you need here.

How: You lie on your back, she on her side, with your squishy bits touching and your heads facing in opposite directions. She slides down onto your erection.

Why it works: Despite your faces being apart, there’s a surprising intimacy to this position. Your partner can move to whatever position stimulates her, while you’ll have an usual amount of pressure on the head of your penis. One warning: not all guys’ penises are flexible enough to achieve this position. Check beforehand.

Do-ability: moderate.

Results: moans to OH-YES.

 

Rodeo

You need a bed, a pillow and a reasonably fit set of back muscles. Lie on your back on the bed, then slide off until only your upper back on head are on the mattress, with your feet taking your weight on the floor. She straddles you and uses her feet to thrust up and down.

Why it works: She has complete in control of the angle, speed and depth of the thrusts, but also has freedom of movement because she’s supporting her own weight. Your hands are free to stimulate her wherever she likes. Keep your legs braced during her orgasm, as her knees might go wobbly for a while.

Do-ability: easy to moderate.

Results: OH-YES

 

Wall banger

Sit with your back to the headboard or the wall, with a pillow behind you. She sits on your legs facing you, then bracing herself on your legs, puts her feet on your shoulders and slides forward onto your erection.

Why it works: it’s a very stable position because you’re supporting her weight on your lap, leaving her to use her arms to push onto and off your penis. You’ll both have a good view of your genitals in close contact, which many women find intensely arousing.

Do-ability: moderate

Results: moderate.

 

 The nuzzler

She lies on her tummy, on the bed, with a pillow under her pelvis. You lie between her legs and enter vagina from behind.

Why it works: It’s one of the easiest and most reliable ways to hit the fabled G-spot, that coin-sized bundle of nerves inside the front of the vagina. Her bottom will prevent you from penetrating too deeply and missing it. It takes a while for some women to become used to pressure on the G-spot, but many develop an instant liking for it. You can whisper sweet nothings from behind, hence the name.

Do-ability: easy

Results: OH-YES

 

 X-File

You sit on the bed with your legs open before you knees slightly bent, while she straddles you.

Why it works: many women find bronco-like thrusting less fun than having a penis inside them providing focused pressure while their clitoris is stimulated. You can try holding hands and leaning back, then focus on keeping the base of your penis providing pressure on the clitoris.

Do-ability: easy

Results: moderate to OH-YES.

Rock-a-bye-booty

With your man on his back, slowly straddle him. Once he’s inside you, have him lift up his torso and position yourselves so that you’re sitting face-to-face. Wrap your legs tightly around his buttocks and have him do the same to you. Then both you and your guy should link your elbows under the other person’s knees and lift them up to chest level. Cradle each other in bear-hug fashion.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Even though this position limits the thrusting possibilities, you can rock each other’s world by swaying back and forth. Start out slow, get the rhythm down, and then let loose. As you build momentum, keep him hard by squeezing your PC muscles — the same ones that contract when you cut off the flow of urine. This will tighten your hold on his member while increasing blood flow to your nether regions, boosting both your bliss.

 

Rating 4 out of 5

 

Thank you Cosmopolitan for this position

Sexual position of the week

Erotic Instructions:

Lie on your back on the floor or the bed with your left leg sticking straight up in the air. Take your right leg and stretch it out to your right side, so that it rests at a ninety degree angle to your body. Reach across the floor with your right hand and clasp your right knee, forming a triangle on the bed with your right side, right leg, and right arm. Have your partner crouch at the bottom of your body and enter you.

 

Why You'll Love It:

The Love Triangle will totally redefine his idea of a three-way. This crouching position improves his pelvic control like nothing else, giving him the chance to thrust and touch you in ways you’ve never felt before. With your left hand, reach between his legs and stroke your nails through his pubic hair, gently tugging on a few strands while he works his magic.

 

Hint

 

Encourage him to take that added groin power and work it! Do a little show before you tell, gyrating your hips to get the motion down. Then, ask him to circle slightly as he thrusts—the friction from the conflicting movements will heat things up immeasurably.

Verdict 5/5

G-spot - 5 top tips

1 - Get In The Mood

It might sound silly but you can't just hit your G-spot and expect instant pleasure. Like many things, it's worth the wait. So, relax, take your time, enjoy some foreplay first - it's easier to find that knobbly, fleshy mound if you are already aroused. And it doesn't matter if you think you don't have a G-spot, as long as you're enjoying sensual sensations, then you or your partner is doing something right.

If you're getting anxious just stop, enjoy some kissing, cuddling and foreplay, use some lube and enjoy your whole body, not just your vagina.

2 - Try A Toy

Have you ever seen those vibrators that are curved at the top? They can be helpful in finding and stimulating the G-spot. Apply a little bit of lube on to the tip of the vibrator and insert it with the curved tip pointing up towards your belly, so that it finds the G-spot. Move it slowly around the G-spot but don't forget your clitoris, lips and breasts too.

If you're with your partner let him have a go, he might find it easier to stimulate you with the vibrator - then you can just lie back and let him do the hard work!

3 - Use Your Fingers

Whether you're doing it yourself or getting help from your partner the technique is the same. Add some lube to the middle and index fingers and slide them a couple of inches inside your vagina.

Start to make 'come here' motions against the front of your vaginal wall - like you're beckoning to someone. Your G-spot should feel different to the smooth walls of the rest of your vagina - it should be noticeably more bumpy and raised. The only way to really know if you're hitting the right spot is how it makes you feel.

Some women say they get a sudden urge to wee (which should pass), and others just feel instantly aroused. If nothing happens at first, try touching it in a different way, vary the speed, change the pressure from light, flicking motions to rubbing intensely, try circular movements and going side-to-side. You'll be surprised at how different they'll all make you feel.

4 - Get On Top

Tired of all that messing around? Just want to get down to it? Don't worry - it is possible to stimulate your G-spot while having sex and one of the best way to do it is by getting on top.

When you're in control you can angle his penis, shift and move around until you've got it just right and make sure you tell him when you have! Your fella can help you by tilting his pelvis as much as possible. Make sure you've done plenty of foreplay to start with because your G-spot is easier to stimulate when you're already aroused.

5 - Do It Doggy Style

Whatever your thoughts are on doggy-style, there's no denying that it's good for hitting your G-spot - and a perfect position to hide your belly!

The best way to feel the benefits are by getting your man to put his legs outside of yours and lean forward as he thrusts, tilting your bum upwards. This will help to angle his penis downwards, on a direct course to your G-spot!

Experiment with moving your legs closer together or further apart as different people are sensitive in different places.

By Louise O'Connell and Charlotte Gunn, all rights respected