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Four Positions For A Better Female Orgasm

Of course you want a steamier sex life -- but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary

You've probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they can't achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He'll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.

Mouth and Finger, Yum!

Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you -- walk him through the following exercise:

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Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.

Face to Face on a Stool

A tall kitchen stool is perfect for communicating and slowly working up to soulful eye-to-eye communication. If you are used to closing your eyes and burying your head in the pillow, you'll find that in this position you are more present and equal. No one's weight is on anyone, you are facing each other (he's standing and you're sitting). You can look down at his penis, and he can get valuable feedback about the types of strokes he is delivering when he sees your face and hears your delighted sounds.

Because this position provides intense stimulation to the G-spot and a clear, direct way to communicate, this is the best position for both of you to learn how to awaken and stimulate your G-spot. Your clitoris can also be easily stimulated.

This position is excellent for deep penetration -- if the stool is sturdy -- and for exploring how deep, penetrating thrusts can trigger the sensations of a uterine orgasm (different than a vaginal orgasm, but equally enjoyable). It's likely that at first you may not have an orgasm and you may not ejaculate, but it's worth it to explore a uterine orgasm.

Standing up from Behind

This position borrows certain elements of the popular "doggy-style" position, where the woman is on her hands and knees and is entered from behind. But if you try standing up, slightly bent forward, you'll find more pressure on the G-spot than with the traditional doggy-style position. Your partner's movements will push forward against your G-spot, and that's exactly what you want for good stimulation.

In all these sexual positions, it is important to have your G-spot aroused before he enters. Expressing your delight in your growing sensitivity and arousal is the best way to communicate with him. If he hears, "Oh, oh, my gosh! Oh, that is so sensitive!" he will slow down, but stay aroused and excited. If you say, "I need you to slow down," especially in a nonerotic voice, he may feel he is being dictated to or worry that he is not pleasing you. His fun and confidence will be affected and he may lose his erection. G-spot sensitivity, G-spot orgasms and ejaculating freely will not happen overnight. He'll learn a few things, and you'll give up a few things while you wait for him to catch up. Let him know when he really hits the target. It's helpful to say to your partner, "Oh, oh, oh, please remember that spot!" That gets the message across in an exciting way.

Don't expect him always to remember, but do expect him to catch on after a while. The great thing about all these positions -- and more generally about learning to awaken your G-spot -- is the gradualness with which this can occur. Unlike learning to have an orgasm, which often leads people to stick to one method, variety in how you experience pleasure and orgasm will increase as you slowly incorporate your G-spot awakening into what you already do.

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Many thanks to Honeymoons.com for this information.

Sex and Hooded Men - Good Clean fun

It’s a question that arises sooner or later. And while the answers depend entirely on personal preference, the health aspects are up for debate. It’s a question of trauma and pain versus hygiene and pleasure.

Do women prefer uncircumcised men or circumcised ones? It’s a question that’s more relevant now than 20 years ago, when around 90% of boys in the Western world were circumcised. Since then there’s been a movement to halt a practice that’s increasingly regarded as medically unnecessary and cruel.

Today only around 60% of boys are circumcised for reasons other than religion. But what are the affects on sex of being snipped or unsnipped? Firstly, it’s been said that the hood of the penis is more sensitive to stimulation if it remains covered by the penile hood.

But there’s also a drawback to being uncircumcised. Men with intact foreskins must take care to move it up and down and clean inside the covered areas. Neglecting to do so will lead to a build-up of smelly material that can cause nasty infections after lovemaking.

Slipping up works nicely
Secondly, some women prefer a circumcised penis, as it slides up and down more easily in the vagina, providing more pleasure for both partners.

There’s also the matter of safe sex: men with foreskins can have difficulty keeping a condom on during full intercourse. Like a dirty penis, this can cause anxiety - a really passion killer.

But with condom that fits properly, proper washing and good lubrication the problem should be alleviated.

Circumcision itself is no happy event – it’s bloody, painful and traumatic. There’s been a concerted effort recent years to discourage parents from circumcising their infant boys. Written accounts of the procedure are harrowing.

Whether you choose to circumcise your kids is up to you. When push comes to shove, there are advantages and disadvantages to having the snip. If you’re a hooded man, pay obsessively close attention to your hygiene. If you aren’t, enjoy your evening. - (William Smook)

Many thanks to William Smook for this article and health24

The Lusty Lean

 

Erotic Instructions:

Your sweetie stands facing you as you squat on a bed or chair with your back to him. Lean on his chest as he steadies you by placing his hands under your rear. He then enters you from behind.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Leaning back on his chest with his biceps bracing your weight, you'll feel totally taken care of — and he'll feel more studly than a first-string stallion. Plus, this position gives him deep access combined with more of a grinding motion than the usual from-behind fast thrusting.

 

Many thanks to cosmopolitan for this. read more at

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/the-lusty-lean-sex-position

Positions women like

Here comes that generalisation again, and with it the knowledge that at least one reader will say, "But I'm not like that". Okay, let's say that many - not all - women enjoy these lovemaking positions.

Call us indulgent, but most men enjoy seeing their partners having an orgasm. Here are a few of the positions many women find gives them the most pleasure, along with some tips for men on maximising the enjoyment for both of you.

 

Astride

You lie on your back, perhaps with a pillow under your bottom. Once she's on top of you and you're inside her, you can tilt your pelvis forward a bit, which allows her to grind hers more directly against it. Many women find this a reliable way of having a clitoral orgasm, especially if they lie on top of you. She may prefer you to lie still and let her control the rhythm of her movement. Don't worry - it'll be pleasant for you too.

 

Your partner may also prefer to remain erect, resting her weight on her hands while moving rhythmically up and done. This enables her to move her G-spot against the head or shaft of your penis.

 

This position can be hugely enjoyable position for both of you. Your partner may heighten the sensation for both of you by squeezing her kegel muscles. Exotic sex manuals talk about women turning around while astride the man, but feats like these have more value as a novelty than heightened pleasure. Try it, but don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out. There are plenty of other options.

 

The intimate missionary

It's a much-maligned position, but many women love it. It allows full-length, skin-to-skin touching and eye contact. Try putting your arms around your partner and holding her close to you. You can also hold yourself up on your arms and move inside her, very slowly and rhythmically, rather than frantic rodeo-type thrusting. Try putting a pillow under her bottom.

 

Making a stand

For this you'll need a very sturdy surface, at about waist height. If it's a cold, hard or rough surface, your partner will appreciate a towel between it and her bottom. Some men go on about the value of a rumbling, vibrating tumble-drier to add extra sensation. If you're comfortable with your partner calling out the name of the manufacturer while in the throes of passion, switch on the machine.

 

The reason so many women like this position is that it allows contact with the G-spot. Some women find it the only position in which they can ejaculate, often a highly erotic experience for both partners. She should probably be fully aroused before you enter her, as you'll be penetrating her deeply.

 

Depending on where you do this - a fallen tree in the middle of the Okavango, against a lifeboat on a cruise liner, under a full moon in Venice - there'll also be an element of danger or intrigue. So this isn't the time for lingering, all-night intimacy, but rather the cut-to-the-action sort. Gauge your partner's mood right and your have a recipe for brief, explosive sex. It’s no replacement for the lingering, romantic sort, just a whizz-bang alternative.

 

Spoons in the sack

This is a slow, intimate position that can feel enormously erotic. Your partner lies on her side and you nestle in her back, letting you guide your penis inside her. There's no eye contact unless you have a strategically placed mirror (Not a bad idea if your partner fancies it), but it does allow you to rub and stroke her body and to kiss, lick and nuzzle her neck, back and ears. And of course, you can give her a running commentary on how good she makes you feel.

 

Stoop lively now

Not all women are wild about “doggy style” as it can seem a bit impersonal, but if the mood is right and she's confident that you're not fantasising about her sister it can be very exciting. You can do this standing, kneeling or lying down. For the latter you can put a pillow under her pelvis, and enter her vagina from behind, resting your weight on your hands.

 

Standing or kneeling affords the deepest penetration, and you can hold your partner's hips in your hands and control your thrusting with her pelvic movements and yours. – thankyou to health 24 for these tips

Rock-a-bye-booty

With your man on his back, slowly straddle him. Once he’s inside you, have him lift up his torso and position yourselves so that you’re sitting face-to-face. Wrap your legs tightly around his buttocks and have him do the same to you. Then both you and your guy should link your elbows under the other person’s knees and lift them up to chest level. Cradle each other in bear-hug fashion.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Even though this position limits the thrusting possibilities, you can rock each other’s world by swaying back and forth. Start out slow, get the rhythm down, and then let loose. As you build momentum, keep him hard by squeezing your PC muscles — the same ones that contract when you cut off the flow of urine. This will tighten your hold on his member while increasing blood flow to your nether regions, boosting both your bliss.

 

Rating 4 out of 5

 

Thank you Cosmopolitan for this position

Sexual Position - Randy Raft

Erotic Instructions:

 

Climb onto a well-inflated raft in shallow water, and lie on your stomach with your butt and legs dangling over the edge. Your man should grab on to your thighs, as if he were pushing a wheelbarrow, then enter you. He can then pull you incredibly close for the deepest possible penetration.

 

 

Why You'll Love It:

The Randy Raft delivers a double whammy. First, your guy can move your legs up and down to vary the angle of penetration, creating alternating sensations for you. Plus, since you can't see him, you aren't able to anticipate his next move, which is surprisingly thrilling.

 

Hint:

 

As your man gets close to climaxing, have him lean forward so his chest is pressed against your back for an intimate skin-to-skin finale.

Sexual position of the week

Erotic Instructions:

Lie on your back on the floor or the bed with your left leg sticking straight up in the air. Take your right leg and stretch it out to your right side, so that it rests at a ninety degree angle to your body. Reach across the floor with your right hand and clasp your right knee, forming a triangle on the bed with your right side, right leg, and right arm. Have your partner crouch at the bottom of your body and enter you.

 

Why You'll Love It:

The Love Triangle will totally redefine his idea of a three-way. This crouching position improves his pelvic control like nothing else, giving him the chance to thrust and touch you in ways you’ve never felt before. With your left hand, reach between his legs and stroke your nails through his pubic hair, gently tugging on a few strands while he works his magic.

 

Hint

 

Encourage him to take that added groin power and work it! Do a little show before you tell, gyrating your hips to get the motion down. Then, ask him to circle slightly as he thrusts—the friction from the conflicting movements will heat things up immeasurably.

Verdict 5/5

Tips for Safe and Successful Online Relationships

How to make your Internet-based relationship work in the real world

At Top Dating Tips, we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity to provide you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.

The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. Find a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.

Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?

First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. Here are some tips you may find helpful:

• Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your profile or your emails and messages.
• Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
• Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
• Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
• Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
• Change and edit your profile occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
• Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
• Be polite with messaging, and don't make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
• Please don't feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
• Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
• Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
• Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
• Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
• Always reply quite quickly to any messages.

Little Blue Pills Among the Ways CIA Wins Friends in Afghanistan

For U.S. intelligence officials, Viagra has become a tool to win and fight some crucial battles in Afghanistan.

While the CIA has a long history of buying information with cash, the growing Taliban insurgency has prompted the use of novel incentives and creative bargaining to gain support in some of the country's roughest neighborhoods, according to officials directly involved in such operations.

In their efforts to win over notoriously fickle warlords and chieftains, the officials say, the agency's operatives have used a variety of personal services. Cash and weapons aren't always the best options. Guns too often fall into the wrong hands, they say, and showy gifts such as money, jewelry and cars tend to draw unwanted attention.

For some U.S. operatives in Afghanistan, Western drugs such as Viagra were just part of a long list of enticements available for use in special cases. Two veteran officers familiar with such practices said Viagra was offered rarely, and only to older tribal officials for whom the drug would hold special appeal. While such sexual performance drugs are generally unavailable in the remote areas where the agency's teams operated, they have been sold in some Kabul street markets since at least 2003 and were known by reputation elsewhere.

"You didn't hand it out to younger guys, but it could be a silver bullet to make connections to the older ones," said one retired operative familiar with the drug's use in Afghanistan. Afghan tribal leaders often had four wives -- the maximum number allowed by the Koran -- and aging village patriarchs were easily sold on the utility of a pill that could "put them back in an authoritative position," the official said.

Women online dating tips

Women who use on-line dating sites will typically receive many messages from both men and women.

They receive more incoming mail than men because usually dating sites have more males which are hunting for best looking profiles. So the question what to write in first dating message or letter is very important. For some replying to first message/letter is funny process but for some it is a real problem. So, how do you write your first dating message;

1. Show respect. If you are answering to email, first, write what you have been pleased to receive his message. Just show your respect to him and his time.

2. Write briefly about your dating objectivesand let him know that you are looking for a seriouss relationship and want to create a family (if you really want that).  Above all tell the truth its important to be lead on or lead any one on.

Then reply to any questions he stated in his letter.

3. If the man did not attach photo, ask him to send photo with his next message or letter.

4. Do not write in the first message/letters about your town, ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands. At this stage it is more important to find out his views on family life, his attitude to relationship between a man and a woman, what values does he have in a relationship, what does not accept in ideal partner

5. In the first message/letter do not ask many questions. It is better to ask 1-3 questions in each letter. Here are the examples of questions you may ask in a first message:

• What is he looking for?
• What would he like to know about you?
• Does he have children, how many and what age they are, with whom they are living?
• Does he drink?
• Does he have own house or rent it?
• How long hashe used on-line dating sites?
• If you live in different countries ask him why he is looking for dating partner from you country.  Which countries has he visited?
• What does he like to do on holiday?

6. With each message, send 1-2 pictures. But it is recommended to avoid explicit photos in bikini in your first message, unless you want to get down to the "action" very quickly.

Dating messages and letters are very different: some of them are the detailed and you may need to spend 10-15 minutes to read it, others quite short (like "if you are interested, write me"). Of course usually woman are primarily interested in long messages or letters but really my advice is to stop ignoring short letters. Some people cannott write about themselves to an unknown person, they first need a question to start a conversation.

What would you like to read in a message?

How do you like to be reached?