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Four Positions For A Better Female Orgasm

Of course you want a steamier sex life -- but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary

You've probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they can't achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He'll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.

Mouth and Finger, Yum!

Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you -- walk him through the following exercise:

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Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.

Face to Face on a Stool

A tall kitchen stool is perfect for communicating and slowly working up to soulful eye-to-eye communication. If you are used to closing your eyes and burying your head in the pillow, you'll find that in this position you are more present and equal. No one's weight is on anyone, you are facing each other (he's standing and you're sitting). You can look down at his penis, and he can get valuable feedback about the types of strokes he is delivering when he sees your face and hears your delighted sounds.

Because this position provides intense stimulation to the G-spot and a clear, direct way to communicate, this is the best position for both of you to learn how to awaken and stimulate your G-spot. Your clitoris can also be easily stimulated.

This position is excellent for deep penetration -- if the stool is sturdy -- and for exploring how deep, penetrating thrusts can trigger the sensations of a uterine orgasm (different than a vaginal orgasm, but equally enjoyable). It's likely that at first you may not have an orgasm and you may not ejaculate, but it's worth it to explore a uterine orgasm.

Standing up from Behind

This position borrows certain elements of the popular "doggy-style" position, where the woman is on her hands and knees and is entered from behind. But if you try standing up, slightly bent forward, you'll find more pressure on the G-spot than with the traditional doggy-style position. Your partner's movements will push forward against your G-spot, and that's exactly what you want for good stimulation.

In all these sexual positions, it is important to have your G-spot aroused before he enters. Expressing your delight in your growing sensitivity and arousal is the best way to communicate with him. If he hears, "Oh, oh, my gosh! Oh, that is so sensitive!" he will slow down, but stay aroused and excited. If you say, "I need you to slow down," especially in a nonerotic voice, he may feel he is being dictated to or worry that he is not pleasing you. His fun and confidence will be affected and he may lose his erection. G-spot sensitivity, G-spot orgasms and ejaculating freely will not happen overnight. He'll learn a few things, and you'll give up a few things while you wait for him to catch up. Let him know when he really hits the target. It's helpful to say to your partner, "Oh, oh, oh, please remember that spot!" That gets the message across in an exciting way.

Don't expect him always to remember, but do expect him to catch on after a while. The great thing about all these positions -- and more generally about learning to awaken your G-spot -- is the gradualness with which this can occur. Unlike learning to have an orgasm, which often leads people to stick to one method, variety in how you experience pleasure and orgasm will increase as you slowly incorporate your G-spot awakening into what you already do.

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Sexual Position To Try - G-Spot Jiggy

Erotic Instructions:

Get down on all fours with your man kneeling behind you and have him plunge inside you, grabbing your rear for balance. A little firm, well-placed stroking of your G-spot can open up a whole new orgasmic world. If he’s the exploring kind, encourage him to thrust far enough inside you so that his testicles hit your body.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Once you have a G-spot orgasm, you’ll crave more. Also, there’s something very primal about doing the deed from behind that brings out the animal in even the most mild-mannered guy.

 

HINT :

If the doggy-style pose doesn’t make you hot enough, accessorize! Using a vibrator will definitely amp up the action. Plus, bringing a toy between the sheets could take your relationship to a whole new level since a touch of taboo is always a turn-on

 

Many thanks to Cosmopolitan for this

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/g-spot-jiggy-sex-position

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Positions women like

Here comes that generalisation again, and with it the knowledge that at least one reader will say, "But I'm not like that". Okay, let's say that many - not all - women enjoy these lovemaking positions.

Call us indulgent, but most men enjoy seeing their partners having an orgasm. Here are a few of the positions many women find gives them the most pleasure, along with some tips for men on maximising the enjoyment for both of you.

 

Astride

You lie on your back, perhaps with a pillow under your bottom. Once she's on top of you and you're inside her, you can tilt your pelvis forward a bit, which allows her to grind hers more directly against it. Many women find this a reliable way of having a clitoral orgasm, especially if they lie on top of you. She may prefer you to lie still and let her control the rhythm of her movement. Don't worry - it'll be pleasant for you too.

 

Your partner may also prefer to remain erect, resting her weight on her hands while moving rhythmically up and done. This enables her to move her G-spot against the head or shaft of your penis.

 

This position can be hugely enjoyable position for both of you. Your partner may heighten the sensation for both of you by squeezing her kegel muscles. Exotic sex manuals talk about women turning around while astride the man, but feats like these have more value as a novelty than heightened pleasure. Try it, but don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out. There are plenty of other options.

 

The intimate missionary

It's a much-maligned position, but many women love it. It allows full-length, skin-to-skin touching and eye contact. Try putting your arms around your partner and holding her close to you. You can also hold yourself up on your arms and move inside her, very slowly and rhythmically, rather than frantic rodeo-type thrusting. Try putting a pillow under her bottom.

 

Making a stand

For this you'll need a very sturdy surface, at about waist height. If it's a cold, hard or rough surface, your partner will appreciate a towel between it and her bottom. Some men go on about the value of a rumbling, vibrating tumble-drier to add extra sensation. If you're comfortable with your partner calling out the name of the manufacturer while in the throes of passion, switch on the machine.

 

The reason so many women like this position is that it allows contact with the G-spot. Some women find it the only position in which they can ejaculate, often a highly erotic experience for both partners. She should probably be fully aroused before you enter her, as you'll be penetrating her deeply.

 

Depending on where you do this - a fallen tree in the middle of the Okavango, against a lifeboat on a cruise liner, under a full moon in Venice - there'll also be an element of danger or intrigue. So this isn't the time for lingering, all-night intimacy, but rather the cut-to-the-action sort. Gauge your partner's mood right and your have a recipe for brief, explosive sex. It’s no replacement for the lingering, romantic sort, just a whizz-bang alternative.

 

Spoons in the sack

This is a slow, intimate position that can feel enormously erotic. Your partner lies on her side and you nestle in her back, letting you guide your penis inside her. There's no eye contact unless you have a strategically placed mirror (Not a bad idea if your partner fancies it), but it does allow you to rub and stroke her body and to kiss, lick and nuzzle her neck, back and ears. And of course, you can give her a running commentary on how good she makes you feel.

 

Stoop lively now

Not all women are wild about “doggy style” as it can seem a bit impersonal, but if the mood is right and she's confident that you're not fantasising about her sister it can be very exciting. You can do this standing, kneeling or lying down. For the latter you can put a pillow under her pelvis, and enter her vagina from behind, resting your weight on your hands.

 

Standing or kneeling affords the deepest penetration, and you can hold your partner's hips in your hands and control your thrusting with her pelvic movements and yours. – thankyou to health 24 for these tips

How to share a lover

Sometimes it happens by design, sometimes it’s unplanned. Sometimes, just maybe, it’s one of those accidents of fate drawing us on into the unknown, on a journey towards greater self-knowledge, greater integration and vastly expanded possibilities. Including more people in your love life will lead to an exponential increase in whatever is at the core of your attraction.

 

First, leave your preconceived expectations and judgements at the gate. That goes for excessive concern about what others will think, too. Learn to discriminate between form and substance. Happiness in a relationship comes from a shared experience of love, not from an external appearance or image of perfect coupledom. Ask yourself: how do I feel in this relationship? Trust your gut. If you have an inner certainty that you are engaged in a loving and joyous union, chances are your partners will agree with you. If you have doubts, check them out with an open-minded friend or unbiased therapist.

Second, do not tolerate deception, secrecy or lies. This doesn’t mean you have to broadcast the most intimate details of your love to the world at large, but cheating hurts everyone involved. Many people embark on multiple relationships without consulting their spouses or lovers because of their own guilt, jealousy or fear of rejection. In order to reap the benefits, it’s essential that all parties have a clear and accurate understanding of what’s going on.

If you or your lovers won’t risk telling the truth to all of your partners, do everybody a favour and stick to monogamy. It is best for your lovers to know and trust each other; that is, to have their own relationship, independent of you. It’s also a good idea for all of you to spend some time together. If your lover refuses to participate in efforts at joint communication, try to identify the underlying obstacles. If there’s no willingness to grow here, beware.

Third, clarify your own values and goals in life. Be consistent and communicate these to others. Don’t mislead potential lovers by changing your intentions with your moods. If it’s a priority for you to keep your life simple, predictable and uncomplicated, you probably won’t be motivated to commit the necessary time and energy to maintain inclusive relationships. More than one lover doesn’t have to mean an endless marathon encounter, but it does require sensitivity, self-awareness, empathy and clear communication. If you don’t already have these skills, you will have to develop them. Involvement in more than one intimate relationship tends to accelerate the process of personal growth and to intensify external activities.

Seek out others who share your wants, needs and dreams. Don’t try to force a round peg into a square hole. Make a list of the costs and benefits of your preferred relationship structure. Visualise it as you would like it to be. Ask yourself: how must I change in order for what I want to become a reality?

What about HIV/AIDS?

Many people these days are fearful of choosing a polyamorous love style because of concerns about exposing themselves to HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

If fear of disease is the only factor motivating your choice of love style, consider this. A closed circle, whether of two or six or twenty healthy, trusted partners can make polyamory just as “safe” as monogamy; perhaps even more so since the couple who have sworn to be monogamous may be more likely to lie about outside affairs and less likely to frankly discuss their sexual histories with prospective lovers than those who are openly polyamorous.

A safe sex circle or condom commitment can be entered into by a number of partners who first take appropriate steps to see that they are free of communicable diseases, and then agree not to have unsafe sex outside the group or engage in other high risk behaviours such as intravenous drug use. Each group will have to define what specific behaviours fall into the category of unprotected sex. If anyone slips up they report this to the group and are then quarantined until they can renew their clean bill of health.

Of course, it’s also possible to share sexual energy without penetration or exchanging bodily fluids, and this is also a good alternative to fear-based monogamy.

The bottom line is that creating a healthy body, mind and spirit will offer you more real protection than relying on one or more partners who may make promises they fail to keep. A highly functional immune system, a sex-positive attitude and your own ability to discern when and with whom it’s appropriate to engage with sexually offer you the security you need to love freely in our modern world. Exercise good judgment, but don’t let exaggerated fears keep you from listening to your heart.

Condom commitment:

An agreement to confine exchange of bodily fluids and barrier-free intercourse to a closed group which has previously been screened for STIs.

So the bottom line is: If you are going to do it, do it responsibly.

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Women online dating tips

Women who use on-line dating sites will typically receive many messages from both men and women.

They receive more incoming mail than men because usually dating sites have more males which are hunting for best looking profiles. So the question what to write in first dating message or letter is very important. For some replying to first message/letter is funny process but for some it is a real problem. So, how do you write your first dating message;

1. Show respect. If you are answering to email, first, write what you have been pleased to receive his message. Just show your respect to him and his time.

2. Write briefly about your dating objectivesand let him know that you are looking for a seriouss relationship and want to create a family (if you really want that).  Above all tell the truth its important to be lead on or lead any one on.

Then reply to any questions he stated in his letter.

3. If the man did not attach photo, ask him to send photo with his next message or letter.

4. Do not write in the first message/letters about your town, ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands. At this stage it is more important to find out his views on family life, his attitude to relationship between a man and a woman, what values does he have in a relationship, what does not accept in ideal partner

5. In the first message/letter do not ask many questions. It is better to ask 1-3 questions in each letter. Here are the examples of questions you may ask in a first message:

• What is he looking for?
• What would he like to know about you?
• Does he have children, how many and what age they are, with whom they are living?
• Does he drink?
• Does he have own house or rent it?
• How long hashe used on-line dating sites?
• If you live in different countries ask him why he is looking for dating partner from you country.  Which countries has he visited?
• What does he like to do on holiday?

6. With each message, send 1-2 pictures. But it is recommended to avoid explicit photos in bikini in your first message, unless you want to get down to the "action" very quickly.

Dating messages and letters are very different: some of them are the detailed and you may need to spend 10-15 minutes to read it, others quite short (like "if you are interested, write me"). Of course usually woman are primarily interested in long messages or letters but really my advice is to stop ignoring short letters. Some people cannott write about themselves to an unknown person, they first need a question to start a conversation.

What would you like to read in a message?

How do you like to be reached?

Airplane sex guide

Airplane Sex Guide For your own safety and comfort and that of your fellow passengers and crew, please observe the following regulations when engaging in in-flight sex.
Sex While Seated Regulations require that you keep your seatbelts fastened at all times when seated. Therefore, only oral and manual sex are permitted in the main cabin. If you desire privacy, you may request a blanket to conceal your activities.
Autofellatio This option is always available to our passengers who prefer to self-suck. To avoid head injuries, make sure your tray table is secured in its upright and locked position.	Hand Job To initiate a hand job, unzip the fly of the passenger seated immediately next to you, freeing his penis. Grasping the shaft firmly, use a brisk up-and-down motion until climax is achieved. Flight attendants may provide moist towelettes for cleanup. Hot towels are available to our first-class passengers.
Blow Job
To initiate a blow job, unzip the fly of the passenger seated immediately next to you, freeing his penis. Rotate your torso 90 degrees and flex at the waist until your mouth contacts the recipient’s hard on. Move head up and down as indicated.Passengers who are unable or prefer not to swallow may use the paper receptacle bags located in the forward seat pocket. After use, give the bag to a flight attendant for disposal.
Sex in the Lavatories For the comfort and consideration of all passengers, we request that couples limit their sessions to 15 minutes or less, whether or not climax is achieved. Please engage the "Having Sex" sign on the lavatory door so that you will not be disturbed.   To facilitate sex in the close quarters of an airline lavatory, may we suggest the following positions. Due to the size of the facilities, threesomes are prohibited. Seated sex positions are recommended if the airplane encounters turbulence. We must remind you that smoking after sex or tampering with a lavatory smoke detector are federal offenses.
Blow Job (Sitting) If emergency fecal evacuation is required, this position may be used for performing a blumpkin maneuver. In this case, be sure the commode lid is OPEN.	Blow Job (Standing) If you do not swallow, please spit into the commode, or alternately, the sink.
Cunnilingus To avoid being overwhelmed by a foul odor, be sure   that the commode lid is shut before your female partner is seated. If the commode is    closed and you are still overwhelmed by a foul    odor during cunnilingus, we suggest your partner review basic hygiene procedures. Unfortunately,   due to space considerations, an in-flight bidet is  not available.	Fingering (Seated) After inserting a hand into your partner’s panties, digitally stimulate her clitoris using up-and-down, side-to-side, or circular motions. If you cannot locate the clitoris, refer to the detailed diagram on the other side of this card.
Intercourse - Doggy-Style Against Sink Save time by using this position to wash your hands or fix your makeup while having sex.	Intercourse – Sitting on Sink Avoid activating the faucet in this position or you’ll end up with an extra large wet spot.
Intercourse – Sitting on Commode To maintain the aircraft's equilibrium, we ask that passengers refrain from riding the baloney pony too vigorously during flight. Intercourse – Standing Against Commode If you prop one foot on the toilet, make sure the lid is closed. Failure to do so may result in a sprained ankle or accidental loss of footwear. Thanks to sextutor.com for these special tips.