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Sex and Hooded Men - Good Clean fun

It’s a question that arises sooner or later. And while the answers depend entirely on personal preference, the health aspects are up for debate. It’s a question of trauma and pain versus hygiene and pleasure.

Do women prefer uncircumcised men or circumcised ones? It’s a question that’s more relevant now than 20 years ago, when around 90% of boys in the Western world were circumcised. Since then there’s been a movement to halt a practice that’s increasingly regarded as medically unnecessary and cruel.

Today only around 60% of boys are circumcised for reasons other than religion. But what are the affects on sex of being snipped or unsnipped? Firstly, it’s been said that the hood of the penis is more sensitive to stimulation if it remains covered by the penile hood.

But there’s also a drawback to being uncircumcised. Men with intact foreskins must take care to move it up and down and clean inside the covered areas. Neglecting to do so will lead to a build-up of smelly material that can cause nasty infections after lovemaking.

Slipping up works nicely
Secondly, some women prefer a circumcised penis, as it slides up and down more easily in the vagina, providing more pleasure for both partners.

There’s also the matter of safe sex: men with foreskins can have difficulty keeping a condom on during full intercourse. Like a dirty penis, this can cause anxiety - a really passion killer.

But with condom that fits properly, proper washing and good lubrication the problem should be alleviated.

Circumcision itself is no happy event – it’s bloody, painful and traumatic. There’s been a concerted effort recent years to discourage parents from circumcising their infant boys. Written accounts of the procedure are harrowing.

Whether you choose to circumcise your kids is up to you. When push comes to shove, there are advantages and disadvantages to having the snip. If you’re a hooded man, pay obsessively close attention to your hygiene. If you aren’t, enjoy your evening. - (William Smook)

Many thanks to William Smook for this article and health24

Sexual Position To Try - G-Spot Jiggy

Erotic Instructions:

Get down on all fours with your man kneeling behind you and have him plunge inside you, grabbing your rear for balance. A little firm, well-placed stroking of your G-spot can open up a whole new orgasmic world. If he’s the exploring kind, encourage him to thrust far enough inside you so that his testicles hit your body.

 

Why You'll Love It:

Once you have a G-spot orgasm, you’ll crave more. Also, there’s something very primal about doing the deed from behind that brings out the animal in even the most mild-mannered guy.

 

HINT :

If the doggy-style pose doesn’t make you hot enough, accessorize! Using a vibrator will definitely amp up the action. Plus, bringing a toy between the sheets could take your relationship to a whole new level since a touch of taboo is always a turn-on

 

Many thanks to Cosmopolitan for this

 

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/g-spot-jiggy-sex-position

How to share a lover

Sometimes it happens by design, sometimes it’s unplanned. Sometimes, just maybe, it’s one of those accidents of fate drawing us on into the unknown, on a journey towards greater self-knowledge, greater integration and vastly expanded possibilities. Including more people in your love life will lead to an exponential increase in whatever is at the core of your attraction.

 

First, leave your preconceived expectations and judgements at the gate. That goes for excessive concern about what others will think, too. Learn to discriminate between form and substance. Happiness in a relationship comes from a shared experience of love, not from an external appearance or image of perfect coupledom. Ask yourself: how do I feel in this relationship? Trust your gut. If you have an inner certainty that you are engaged in a loving and joyous union, chances are your partners will agree with you. If you have doubts, check them out with an open-minded friend or unbiased therapist.

Second, do not tolerate deception, secrecy or lies. This doesn’t mean you have to broadcast the most intimate details of your love to the world at large, but cheating hurts everyone involved. Many people embark on multiple relationships without consulting their spouses or lovers because of their own guilt, jealousy or fear of rejection. In order to reap the benefits, it’s essential that all parties have a clear and accurate understanding of what’s going on.

If you or your lovers won’t risk telling the truth to all of your partners, do everybody a favour and stick to monogamy. It is best for your lovers to know and trust each other; that is, to have their own relationship, independent of you. It’s also a good idea for all of you to spend some time together. If your lover refuses to participate in efforts at joint communication, try to identify the underlying obstacles. If there’s no willingness to grow here, beware.

Third, clarify your own values and goals in life. Be consistent and communicate these to others. Don’t mislead potential lovers by changing your intentions with your moods. If it’s a priority for you to keep your life simple, predictable and uncomplicated, you probably won’t be motivated to commit the necessary time and energy to maintain inclusive relationships. More than one lover doesn’t have to mean an endless marathon encounter, but it does require sensitivity, self-awareness, empathy and clear communication. If you don’t already have these skills, you will have to develop them. Involvement in more than one intimate relationship tends to accelerate the process of personal growth and to intensify external activities.

Seek out others who share your wants, needs and dreams. Don’t try to force a round peg into a square hole. Make a list of the costs and benefits of your preferred relationship structure. Visualise it as you would like it to be. Ask yourself: how must I change in order for what I want to become a reality?

What about HIV/AIDS?

Many people these days are fearful of choosing a polyamorous love style because of concerns about exposing themselves to HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

If fear of disease is the only factor motivating your choice of love style, consider this. A closed circle, whether of two or six or twenty healthy, trusted partners can make polyamory just as “safe” as monogamy; perhaps even more so since the couple who have sworn to be monogamous may be more likely to lie about outside affairs and less likely to frankly discuss their sexual histories with prospective lovers than those who are openly polyamorous.

A safe sex circle or condom commitment can be entered into by a number of partners who first take appropriate steps to see that they are free of communicable diseases, and then agree not to have unsafe sex outside the group or engage in other high risk behaviours such as intravenous drug use. Each group will have to define what specific behaviours fall into the category of unprotected sex. If anyone slips up they report this to the group and are then quarantined until they can renew their clean bill of health.

Of course, it’s also possible to share sexual energy without penetration or exchanging bodily fluids, and this is also a good alternative to fear-based monogamy.

The bottom line is that creating a healthy body, mind and spirit will offer you more real protection than relying on one or more partners who may make promises they fail to keep. A highly functional immune system, a sex-positive attitude and your own ability to discern when and with whom it’s appropriate to engage with sexually offer you the security you need to love freely in our modern world. Exercise good judgment, but don’t let exaggerated fears keep you from listening to your heart.

Condom commitment:

An agreement to confine exchange of bodily fluids and barrier-free intercourse to a closed group which has previously been screened for STIs.

So the bottom line is: If you are going to do it, do it responsibly.

Sunday Sex Tip

Hit the spot!

Missionary position? Nah, overdone. Try our selection of handy configurations of carnal knowledge. All you need is a consenting partner and a sense of adventure.

 There’s one big benefit to the positions we’ve chosen: they hit the spot for women. We’ve rated each one’s do-ability as easy, moderate or tricky and the results as sighs, moans or OH-YES, along with instructions on making it work.

 

A little inversion

You’ll need a low bed, futon or couch for this one, and some cushions or pillows on the floor so she won’t hurt he head.

How: She lies on her back on the bed, then slides off the side so that her head, shoulders and upper back are over the edge and resting on the cushions. You move in and penetrate her, bracing yourself on the edge of the bed or whatever other furniture is available.

Why it works: the position stretches her belly, pulling the lips of her vagina so that your penis makes good contact with her clitoris. And her breasts will be close to your face, which is always nice.

Do-ability: tricky.

Results: moans.

 

End-on

Two pillows and a bed are all you need here.

How: You lie on your back, she on her side, with your squishy bits touching and your heads facing in opposite directions. She slides down onto your erection.

Why it works: Despite your faces being apart, there’s a surprising intimacy to this position. Your partner can move to whatever position stimulates her, while you’ll have an usual amount of pressure on the head of your penis. One warning: not all guys’ penises are flexible enough to achieve this position. Check beforehand.

Do-ability: moderate.

Results: moans to OH-YES.

 

Rodeo

You need a bed, a pillow and a reasonably fit set of back muscles. Lie on your back on the bed, then slide off until only your upper back on head are on the mattress, with your feet taking your weight on the floor. She straddles you and uses her feet to thrust up and down.

Why it works: She has complete in control of the angle, speed and depth of the thrusts, but also has freedom of movement because she’s supporting her own weight. Your hands are free to stimulate her wherever she likes. Keep your legs braced during her orgasm, as her knees might go wobbly for a while.

Do-ability: easy to moderate.

Results: OH-YES

 

Wall banger

Sit with your back to the headboard or the wall, with a pillow behind you. She sits on your legs facing you, then bracing herself on your legs, puts her feet on your shoulders and slides forward onto your erection.

Why it works: it’s a very stable position because you’re supporting her weight on your lap, leaving her to use her arms to push onto and off your penis. You’ll both have a good view of your genitals in close contact, which many women find intensely arousing.

Do-ability: moderate

Results: moderate.

 

 The nuzzler

She lies on her tummy, on the bed, with a pillow under her pelvis. You lie between her legs and enter vagina from behind.

Why it works: It’s one of the easiest and most reliable ways to hit the fabled G-spot, that coin-sized bundle of nerves inside the front of the vagina. Her bottom will prevent you from penetrating too deeply and missing it. It takes a while for some women to become used to pressure on the G-spot, but many develop an instant liking for it. You can whisper sweet nothings from behind, hence the name.

Do-ability: easy

Results: OH-YES

 

 X-File

You sit on the bed with your legs open before you knees slightly bent, while she straddles you.

Why it works: many women find bronco-like thrusting less fun than having a penis inside them providing focused pressure while their clitoris is stimulated. You can try holding hands and leaning back, then focus on keeping the base of your penis providing pressure on the clitoris.

Do-ability: easy

Results: moderate to OH-YES.

100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR MATE

100 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR MATE

This list is designed to be a quick check for you to review. Use it to give you ideas to maintain your relationship, to give it a positive boost or to select a holiday gift. Some couples have also used it as a request list. They have circled what they would like to have and asked their partner to do the same. Feel free to add to the list and use it again and again. Enjoy!

1. Hug them.

2. Write a love note.

3. Call them at work just to say "Hi."

4. Give them a foot massage.

5. Tell them a joke.

6. Caress them with slow gentle strokes.

7. Go for a walk with them.

8. Send them a "happy gram."

9. Admit your mistakes.

10. Say: "I love you."

11. Indulge a whim.

12. Listen to them talk about an interest of theirs.

13. Be trustworthy.

14. Instead of complaining, tell them what you would prefer.

15. Look at them when you're in a discussion.

16. Send flowers.

17. Compliment something they did.

18. Offer to help.

19. Ask them to show you how to do something.

20. Call when you are going to be late.

21. Take them out to dinner.

22. Write them a poem about how special they are.

23. Cut out a cartoon they'll enjoy.

24. Ask them what they'd like sexually.

25. Go shopping together.

26. Take an afternoon drive.

27. Cuddle.

28. Put your arm around them in front of others.

29. Take them out on a surprise date.

30. Do something they want to do.

31. Listen.

32. Plan a candle light dinner.

33. Look at old photos together.

34. Serve them breakfast in bed.

35. Hold hands.

36. Share sexual fantasies.

37. Do a work project together.

38. Rub their back.

39. Take a shower together.

40. Carry their photo in your wallet.

41. Go away together for a weekend holiday.

42. Kiss them.

43. Smile more when you look at them.

44. Go for a bicycle ride together.

45. Surprise them with "special" attire.

46. Plan a picnic lunch.

47. Read something together about how to have a better relationship.

48. Repeat what they say before answering.

49. Say "Good morning" first.

50. Ask if they have a few minutes first before interrupting.

51. Send them a card.

52. Surprise them with a gift when it's a non-holiday.

53. Cook them a favorite meal.

54. Try a new restaurant.

55. Ask them how they feel.

56. Let them know when you are proud of them.

57. Ask for their opinion.

58. Turn on some romantic music.

59. Dedicate a song to them.

60. Send them a balloon bouquet.

61. Watch a sunset together.

62. Play a game together.

63. Have them teach you something they know.

64. Tell them they have the night off.

65. Go to a movie they select.

66. Ask them for a hug.

67. Wear some new cologne.

68. Take them to Bali.

69. Discuss future plans with them.

70. Ask if you can help when they look sad.

71. Ask them about their dreams.

72. Meet them for lunch.

73. Enlarge a scenic photo of a place you've shared.

74. Give them a gift certificate for their favorite store.

75. Tell them what you like about them.

76. Buy them a new perfume.

77. Take them to a scenic spot.

78. Send them a gourmet gift basket.

79. Send them a joke card.

80. Let them know when you've thought of them during the day.

81. Buy them a toy.

82. Compliment them to their friends.

83. Bring them a thirst quenching drink.

84. Tell them when they look attractive.

85. Send them a post card.

86. Invite them to a secret rendezvous.

87. Give them a massage.

88. Take a lesson with them.

89. Look at photos together of when you met.

90. Plan a vacation with them.

91. Listen openly to their opposing opinion.

92. Buy them a new piece of jewelry.

93. Watch a TV show they like with them

94. Write them a letter.

95. Listen to music with them, such as an old favorite.

96. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear.

97. Tell them what you like that they do.

98. Give a head massage.

99. Invite them to a concert.

100. Let them know you care.

 

Courtesey of Connie Saindon, MA

Wanted: Porn show host Advertised in Job Centre

The Jobcentre is advertising an unusual position - the 'semi-nude' host of a pornographic TV channel.

A role not for the faint hearted.

The ad says the job 'may cause embarrassment to some people' but pays £220 per shift, reports the Daily Telegraph.

The winning applicant will work three days a week from 9pm until 5am but will have no pension entitlement.

The advert for the position of 'Adult TV Channel Presenter' on the Jobcentre Plus website states: "Duties involve explicit sexual dialogue which may cause embarrassment to some people.

"The successful applicant (will be) required to be semi-nude.

"Must have good spoken communication skills as will be taking calls from the general public live on air."

The ad for the London-based job also states that applicants have to be aged over 18 and adds: "There is no obligation to consider making an application for this vacancy."

A spokesman for Revolver Models, which placed the ad, said: "We are looking for a male or a female to take this role."

Jobless Sophie Randall-Price, 25, said: "I couldn't believe it when I saw this. I'm willing to work hard, but I'm not willing to whip my top off and talk dirty to a bunch of weirdos in the middle of the night on national TV."

A spokesman for the Department for Work and Pensions said: "The Jobcentre Plus has a duty to advertise any legal job."

Many thanks to http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_3391904.html?menu=news.quirkies.sexlife

Tips for Safe and Successful Online Relationships

How to make your Internet-based relationship work in the real world

At Top Dating Tips, we are here to help you be successful in dating and meeting new friends. It's what we do best. We want to take this opportunity to provide you with some hints and tips on helping you date safely, and successfully find that special person. You may wish to make and meet a new friend. Your main interest may be in dating online or dating in person, you may wish to find love and romance, perhaps the person you dream of marrying. It could be that you wish to travel or play sport or an activity and need a companion or other activity partner to come along.

The key to meeting new friends is to have fun, relax and enjoy. Find a dating site environment in which you can do these things safely and without any pressure. If you decide to meet someone there or in the outside world, then we feel there are some basic ideas you should follow for your personal comfort.

Okay, so what can you do to help yourself?

First you need to get replies to your emails and messages. Here are some tips you may find helpful:

• Think about how your profile is written. Ensure there are NO spelling mistakes in your profile or your emails and messages.
• Keep your description short but be completely honest. If you are not being truthful then when you meet, you will be discovered, if not before.
• Add fun and humor to your profile, and don't be too serious at first.
• Don't be afraid to state who you wish to meet and why. Most adults know the kind of person they are attracted to, even if they are not sure why.
• Tell people what you like and perhaps things you don't. Don't be offensive though.
• Change and edit your profile occasionally to keep it fresh, and try to be original.
• Add a photo to your profile. We find that a member with a photo can get anything up to 9 times the amount of replies, in comparison with those that do not include one.
• Be polite with messaging, and don't make judgments about the length of time to get a reply.
• Please don't feel you need to block someone just because they are too busy to chat this time. Be cool.
• Keep your first email short and to the point, perhaps humorous and interesting. Don't include too much detail at this point, and just a few things that you have in common. Make the email talkative and allow it to flow. Don't be too serious at this stage or too emotional.
• Do NOT include you personal details in an introduction email. Leave that until a relationship is established, and you feel very comfortable with the other person.
• Try and contact a few people at the same time, but always those who you have matched, not those who you have nothing in common with as they will not welcome your contact.
• Be honest and stick to the truth. It is all too easy to add things that at this stage are not checkable. However, you may get caught out later and ruin a fantastic friendship or romance.
• Always reply quite quickly to any messages.

A Helping Hand

One great new innovation that can help to improve sex for both men and women in any position is ID Pleasure, a high-market lubricant containing L-Arginine. L-Arginine is a non-essential amino acid which, through clinical testing, has been shown to enhance sexual arousal in women and also has been found to increase stimulation for men. When ID Pleasure is applied to the clitoris and vaginal walls for lubrication the L-Arginine will increase the blood flow to the region, heightening sensitivity. Heightened sensitivity, in turn, naturally results in a greater responsiveness to sexual stimulation. When applied to the penis, it increases the blood flow to the penis and helps to create a stronger erection and additional stimulation.